Benny Beats His Shyness: Kids and Parents Overcoming Social Anxiety
Book description
This book describes Benny the lion cub’s journey towards overcoming his social anxiety, while thoroughly outlining the strategies his parents used to help him.
Benny’s journey was not easy, and along the way, he had to overcome one challenge after another. The result was a dramatic change in his ability to defeat his social anxiety.
Today Benny can communicate with cubs and adults easily; he can speak in class and has a rich social life.
Recommendation
Dr. Michael Zivor, Clinical Psychologist, Anxiety Specialist
what a wonderful book Dr Kushnir wrote. As a clinician and a father I have used this book and the kids love it. The story line is clear and focused and the drawings are marvelous, Run or Click and give it a try, you won’t regret it.
Who is this book for?
- Your child wants to join other kids but freezes, hides behind you, or stays silent
- Your child rarely speaks up in class or does not answer when adults talk to them
- Birthday parties, playdates, or new groups often end in tears or refusal
- You are not sure when to encourage your child and when to step back
What’s inside
- The story of Benny, a lion cub, and his journey toward overcoming social anxiety
- A clear outline of the strategies Benny's parents used to help him
- A realistic picture of the process, with Benny facing one challenge after another
- A hopeful ending in which Benny talks easily with cubs and adults, speaks in class, and enjoys a rich social life
How to use this book
Read the book together at a calm time, not right before or after a hard social moment. Talk about how Benny feels and ask your child whether they ever feel the same way. Then use the strategies Benny's parents follow as a guide, choosing small social steps your child can practice, one at a time, with your encouragement.
Book details
- Authors: Dr. Jonathan Kushnir, Ram Kushnir
- Illustrator: Vidya Lalgudi Jaishankar
- Reading age: 4–8 years
- Pages: 50
- Published: November 2021
- Language: English
Frequently asked questions
What age is Benny Beats His Shyness for?
The stated reading age is 4 to 8. It is a picture book meant to be read together with a parent, who can then use the strategies outlined in the story.
What is the difference between shyness and social anxiety in children?
Many children are shy and warm up slowly, and that is a normal temperament. Social anxiety is when the fear of being noticed or judged is strong enough that a child avoids speaking, playing, or taking part, and it gets in the way of school or friendships.
Can a picture book help a shy or socially anxious child?
A story can help a child see that others feel the same way and that fear gets smaller when it is faced in small steps. It also gives parents a shared language and a plan to follow. A book can help, but it does not replace professional care when the anxiety is severe.
When a book is not enough
If your child's fear of social situations lasts for weeks or months, keeps them from speaking at school or making friends, or causes strong distress, it is worth talking with a child psychologist or your pediatrician. Read more about Dr. Kushnir and his online clinics.
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